“I Just Want to Get it Over With!”

Let the Process Run

So often during a divorce proceeding, one or both parties will exclaim in exasperation “I just want to get it over with”.  These words, if carried out, can result in serious regret in the future.  Work with the process, take the time to go through the process.

Divorce takes Time

There are many issues to be resolved in a divorce —property division, support, parenting issues, health insurance issues, life insurance issues, and so many others.   Divorce is effectively a dissolution of a partnership, and in some cases a long-term partnership with multiple children and significant assets and income.  Just as the dissolution of a partnership takes time and careful consideration, so does divorce.  Take the time to do it carefully and invest the effort it deserves.

Do Not Let Regret into the Process

As attorneys, we often meet with clients who live to regret actions taken in haste during divorce, “just to get it over with”.  Sometimes the harm done is irreparable.  Rights are lost and can often never be recovered.  Division of property between spouses (and sometimes other provisions of agreements as well) “survive” and cannot be changed, except under the most extraordinary circumstances.  Claims such as “I didn’t know what I was doing” or “I just wanted to get it over with” seldom results in wrongs being made right.

Resist “Rushing in”

Do not rush the process any more than necessary.  Divorce agreements will have an impact for the rest of your life.  Fools “rush in” — resist this effort.  Invest in an attorney that you trust.  Listen to his or her advice.  Get a second opinion.  Think before you act.  And take the time you need to make decisions that will impact your life for years to come.

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